self care

Hair Got Dyed Last Week

Posted on 25th Feb 2019 by parentingwithaddedchallenges

For the past 3ish years my hair has been various blues, purples n pinks but last week I got bored.

Chris kindly had a few spare spoons so bleached my hair then added a mix of the shades Fire and Tangerine by a company called Directions once the bleach was out n the result is incredible

So bright n vibrant

Here is a photo

Well ok it is a collage of different views of my hair.

We deliberately avoided my roots as scalp still recovering from the burns it suffered just before Christmas (2018) from a salon in the city centre who still wont respond to my complaint n have blocked me on Facebook n ignore my phone calls with excuse after excuse why the manager can’t take my call yet had no qualms when inflicting said issues to me pre Xmas time.

I will try them again this week n if again they fail to respond il once more try hold them to account online n if that fails once Iv regained some spoons go in in person n rip them a new one in person!

In the meantime Chris is my safe human n wish he knew just how safe even at nearly 5am he enables me to feel; knowing he cares unconditionally is worth far more than I can express and explain in this blog n as he said a few hours ago “we are a team n will get through what life throws at us as a team”

New Hair – Self Care

Posted on 20th Dec 201820th Dec 2018 by parentingwithaddedchallenges

An easy way those closest to me can generally work out how my head is to check how recently I have had my hair dyed.

Iv been partial to pinks, purples and blues for a couple of years now. Admittedly generally done at home but heyho.

As my hair also needed a cut and undercut reshaved I opted to go to a barbers in town.

Far too many spoons involved and exhausted now as one bod cut my hair, one dyed it, one washed it, another my undercut but after arriving at 9:30am I finally left at 14:10!

Here is a montage of images of different views of said new dye job and restyle on my undercut

Lots of vivid colour and I am in utter love with my undercuts pattern.

Self care is sometimes exhausting and today is one of those days. Once the self care blues so to speak pass I will be able to enjoy my hair and the comments it will gain.

Posted on 13th Dec 2018 by parentingwithaddedchallenges

Let me give some context as all we seem to hear is “self care this” or “self care that”.

Earlier this year I was raped twice in six days by the same animal, whom was once a friend of mine, who in effect spent nearly 4 years obtaining deep personal information about me, about my past, acknowledging and validating my past lived experience of both mental distress but also deep trauma. Anyways I actually reported the two rapes to the police, like ya know they say you should and the whole #MeToo movement has galvanised the world to sit up and give a voice to what many let go unspoken, unreported and list goes on.

Last week the police came out to see me, they have concluded due to lack of witnesses and CCTV, despite having forensics, and statements, copies of text messages this bastard sent me they can’t take the case forward. This for obvious reasons has left me rather fed up of the system and rather broken. and the result being my mental health has yet again had a knock.

anyways back to Self Care n this particular blog.

I am my own worse enemy in a ot of ways I know what advice to give others in a similar situation whom experience similar emotions to me but applying to myself possibly due to internalised abilism fails to occur to instead I just mull it over and self blame.

Today I opted to be proactive.

I baked 2 dozen blueberry and banana cupcakes. Might not sound much but it helped a little to do something small (and tasty)

The recipe was a simple one:

2 eggs, 200g plain flour, 2 bananas smashed up, 200g butter, 1 teaspoon baking powder, 200g caster sugar (and I added in a cup worth of frozen blueberries)

Mix up the sugar and butter, add in the flour and baking powder and then add the fruit, then simply put in cupcake cases and bake for 30 minutes at 190′.

The house smells fantastic and Jemima and Chris will enjoy them and it took a hour away from my head and toxic negative thoughts due to having to concentrate on what I was doing and focus.

EDIT: Jemima has just got home from school and already demolished two, they must taste good!